Monday, November 24, 2008

Thankful For: My Roommates

This afternoon I had a thought-provoking moment.  Brian was talking about the timelessness of the song Tomorrow from Annie and, of course, I began singing.  Halfway through the first verse, he looked at me and asked, "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"  I went mute.  After a moment of absolute shock, I realized that he was completely serious and it was meant to be a major compliment.  Tim's reply: "Well, maybe he's looking for someone that matches his eating habits.  That might be hard to find." Brian: "If I were a girl, I would change my eating habits - I mean, seriously - he's David!"  Tim: "But some girls like chocolate and things like that."  Brian: "More than they like David?"

Aside from the thoughts that the conversation spurred (what can I do so girls want to date me & what should I look for in a future spouse), I felt an overwhelming sense of love for my roommates.  They are amazing.  They are real, down-to-earth, hard working, and striving to be better each day.  And we are each so totally different.  Bryan shows me off whenever I'm around and tells others that I'm an incredible cook.  Tim calls me a marginality in reference to the statistical, pessimistic explanations he gives about humanity (which has got to be a compliment, coming from him)... Hans doesn't complain even when my part of the room is an absolute mess, I wake up at 5:15 in the morning, or go to sleep at 1:00 in the morning because I was reading or writing in my journal... and Stuart tells me, in his very frank and upfront way, about the things I do well.  

Each time I look at the skills and talents they each have, and how willing they are to share that love with me, I realize how much I love my roommates.  I don't feel like I'm incredibly good at developing relationships (maybe that's the answer to Brian's question)... but I can tell that they care... and for that I am grateful.


  1. So, why don't you (perhaps a sensitive question... so don't feel obligated to answer)? I know plenty of ppl who don't like chocolate. One of my former roommates said that if she had an unlimited supply of hummus like you make, she'd be willing to go vegan the rest of her life. It sounded like several other girls in that class agree. I would too. I bet there are hundreds of them right under your nose. Your roommates sound very wise.

  2. My roommates are wise... truthfully, I don't know. There are so many reasons why it could be - an overly idealistic view of the world, not being the right time from the Lord's perspective, not wanting to hurt others if it doesn't work out, not being incredibly good at relationship-building...

    All of the above reasons (save one) would be of my own construction. I'm not willing to believe that it's someone else's fault - the old, "There's no one right for me"... because I don't believe that's true.

    Whatever the answer is, I vacillate between thinking it's a major failure on my part or simply the Lord telling me to wait for "the right time." So right now I'm trying to become a better person, lose my pride, date and develop my relationship skills, and ask for help and guidance. Someday...

  3. The Lord has someone just for you. Don't worry, just keep doing what you're doing.


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